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It's the Heart that Matters More

There are all kinds of documented testimonials about how the heart had to bypass all kinds of logic, geometry and physics in order to make something extraordinary happen.  There is the science and the controversy about what is the physical controlling factor in the human body. Is it the brain? Is it the heart? Depending on how you are wired, depends on how you look at life.  If you more logical, the brain is what you listen to and if you are more romantic or creative you listen to your heart.

I had a massive heart attack six years ago and then had an incident just a few months ago that required an angioplasty and a stent.  I have always been known for my heart, and if I look at my family and all the heart disease and death that’s resulted from vulnerable hearts, it makes sense. Our family crest should have been one, big, broken heart. 

I now have a very intimate relationship with my heart. It’s quite personal, loving and fragile, and we speak to each other all the time. I have asked so much of my heart and I demand so much of it on a daily basis.  Our relationship was pretty one-sided for so long. I treated my heart the way I treated most of my relationships…that they were there to serve me.  No wonder that there was pushback and an angry heart but also like my other relationships, my heart has hung in there giving me more chances to do the right thing and be the person that I say I want to be.

People have asked me if I am afraid due the damage in my heart and I say “No”, I actually feel more in tune, more courageous than ever because I am in love with my heart. The good, the damaged, the majesty of it all.  I am also in love with other’s hearts and as human beings that is truly what we respond to the magnificence of when one is true to themselves, which means being true to your heart.

Some interesting facts:

·      Your heart beats 101,000 times a day. During your lifetime it will beat about 3 billion times and pump about 800 million pints of blood or about 1 million barrels -that’s enough to fill more than 3 super tankers.

·      Blood takes about 20 seconds to circulate throughout the entire vascular system.

·      A typical athlete’s heart churns out up to 8 gallons of blood per minute. 

·      Your system of blood vessels - arteries, veins and capillaries - is over 60,000 miles long. That’s long enough to go around the world more than twice!

·      The heart produces enough energy every day to drive a truck for 20mi.

·      Your heartbeat changes and mimics the music you listen to…

·      Couples who are in Love synchronize their heart rates after gazing into each other’s eyes… 

Happy Valentines Day.



It’s hard to grow, move, create and see possibility when you are under water. Now, actually being under water, that creates wonder, but metaphorically being under water gives us no place to go.  Circumstances such as bad health, financial challenges or breakdowns in your primary relationships can throw one into some level of despair.  One takes action to dig themselves out but mostly we are using the same tools that dug us in.  Different people have different tendencies in adverse situations but if you can get yourself to higher ground, where you can look around and see what got you here, that is a beginning.

There always signs along the way that point to unfavorable outcomes. There are also signs along the way that point to favorable outcomes but I am not talking about “good times”. I am taking about transcending and finding value in difficult situations. We choose to ignore those signs and then are always surprised or indignant when unwanted events take place.

First we need to do a review and understand how you got here…without any blame or self-incrimination.

Second there is to clean up; apologize or make amends for any arrogant and dismissive actions that you perpetrated along the way.

Third, you can look at how this breakdown is more of what you wanted than you know; to take yourself out of some victim identity and see somehow this direction is somehow a choice, you were just too blind, too arrogant or too afraid to make it.

Fourth, you reach out to others for authentic feedback using them to assist in new direction with an open ear and open heart.

Fifth, you don’t attempt to keep something together. You allow the house to come down so you can read the geomancy in the dirt. 

Sixth, you begin to rebuild, not reassemble, and you allocate plenty of time for that process. You are not in a hurry.  You are in the truth and there are no time restrictions in rebuilding from the truth.