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In Memory of Chester

I was heartbroken to hear about Chester yesterday. My heart breaks for Mike, Brad, Dave, Joe and Rob (bandmates), Chester’s fans and family. We are not privy to people's pain, we only get glimpses into what people endure. As a father I can’t imagine leaving 6 kids this way, but I then think of Chester and I think more about him as a son than a father. And my heart breaks for him knowing him as an energetic, sweetly sensitive boy, where the world was too much for him. We all try to make sense of life and hell, I have made a profession out of that pursuit, but there is life that goes way beyond our own understanding. I watched a YouTube video of Chris Cornell singing “A Day in the Life” by the Beatles and Chester singing “Hallelujah” at Chris Cornel’s funeral and I was reminded of all things that are beautiful and heartbreaking all at the same time. And once again I was reminded that we are all heartbroken. Thank you Chester for all that you gave.

Taking Time to Change

They ––those people–– usually say, that as you get older your life becomes less expansive, your views become narrower and you become less tolerant. You turn down the music. Not to say there is not some sort of entropic aspect, or at least, some gravitational pull towards this way of being. But it doesn’t have to go that way; I have found that habitual behavior versus original thinking usually stands in the way of any kind of evolution. And many of us blame lack of time for our lack of capacity. We tend to maintain many of the values that we started with, rather than allowing life to look and feel like a constant cycle of expanding values.

Time Management is an illusion at best, as it is a sore attempt at putting lightening in a bottle. More like Timeless Play, the idea that there is an infinite supply of time and all one needs to do is access it. Most look at their time to see if they can shove a commitment into the time they have rather than look at what you want to create and harvest all the time you need.

The idea that it takes time to change is not true; what takes time is how long it takes for people to realize they need to change. Being radical and revolutionary in your examination of how you have lived and how you are living, can’t be bad.

“To introduce an initiative of changing your mind and opening your heart, time and time again, seems like a good way to go.”