Time doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds, but “The Times” reveal all wounds.
The pandemic is certainly revealing all those unresolved issues that were so neatly tucked away under the blanket of cash, cachet, and mostly control.
We all have one or two basic Core Confusions that we live from and if you’ve got one side, you also have the other. They are called Core Confusions because there is no clarity about which side you are on.
A Core Confusion is two seemingly similar qualities, but they produce an entirely different effect.
Such as Arrogance and Confidence – they look similar, except one attracts and the other repels.
The generic Core Confusions that are being demonstrated under the watchful eye of Coronavirus are:
Control/Controlling
Creativity/Drama
Credibility/Authority.
To be in control or have self-control is an ideal. To be controlling means that you are threatened and as a result, you have to act like you know what you are talking about when you don’t.
To be creative is to be present and to be coming up with innovative ideas and expressing them. To be dramatic is to create problems where there are none and then act as if you really accomplished something. If you are a creative person and you are not being creative – You then will resort to drama.
To have credibility is possessing knowledge in an area of your expertise and one where you have earned the right to speak with forethought and intelligence. Authority is speaking where you have no expertise and posturing where you have no posture.
These Core Confusions are the behavioral headlines of this time. (A shoutout and honorable mention go to Vision/Agenda and Service/Sacrifice – they are not the headlines but they are certainly in play).
The positive side looks similar to the negative side, but they have a wildly different effect.
Understanding and awareness are always the beginning of change.